It's been too long!
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I am not as liberal as I would appear. I have differing views on social programs and fiscal responsibility. HOWEVER, I think both sides of the fence are not without 'sin'.
As far as marriage goes, I think that less and less has to do with whether it works or not. More and more I think it has to do with societal norms. Everyone (okay 50% of everyone) gets divorced. I think that stat is low because fewer people are getting married and yet still producing families that eventually break apart. I know very few people who have not been divorced. I want to know where the other half of this 50% are!
Serial Monogamy and the Lesbian. That is such a loaded title. Women are so much different than men and yet we are not..........it just takes us longer to sleep with someone else. Men can do it in a night....women take two years. I think it comes attached to the Lesbian gene that and the U-Haul Syndrome. Seriously though, women become attached very quickly and fail to go through any courting rituals or engagement periods. I really believe that the only reason my partner and I have stayed together is because I was in New Zealand for a year after we had only been seeing each other for seven months. We were apart long enough to get to really know each other. Trust me, long distance relationships can work as long as there is an end in sight. When I came to know Christ I gave my sexuality and relationships to Him and I was single for almost 4 years. For me that was unheard of. I was never out of a relationship for more than a week. If someone broke my heart I was ready to patch it up with a new lover. With that mind set of never wanting to be alone, I constantly chose anything and everything that was available to me. None of which was healthy. JUST BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE ALONE. Isn't that the reason we do these things instead of waiting for God to bring that one person to us that would give us the best chance at longterm relationship? So what am I trying to say in all of this?
I think society almost expects divorce. Thus it makes it so very easy to break up and not work to stay together. We leave if we're not happy about the toothpaste cap or the way the other person breathes.
Answer these questions:
Do you have to tools to make it work?
Do you know enough about how the other person views the world around them?
Are you willing to find out instead of thinking about yourself all the time?
It takes both parties to want a healing.
Got it?
As far as marriage goes, I think that less and less has to do with whether it works or not. More and more I think it has to do with societal norms. Everyone (okay 50% of everyone) gets divorced. I think that stat is low because fewer people are getting married and yet still producing families that eventually break apart. I know very few people who have not been divorced. I want to know where the other half of this 50% are!
Serial Monogamy and the Lesbian. That is such a loaded title. Women are so much different than men and yet we are not..........it just takes us longer to sleep with someone else. Men can do it in a night....women take two years. I think it comes attached to the Lesbian gene that and the U-Haul Syndrome. Seriously though, women become attached very quickly and fail to go through any courting rituals or engagement periods. I really believe that the only reason my partner and I have stayed together is because I was in New Zealand for a year after we had only been seeing each other for seven months. We were apart long enough to get to really know each other. Trust me, long distance relationships can work as long as there is an end in sight. When I came to know Christ I gave my sexuality and relationships to Him and I was single for almost 4 years. For me that was unheard of. I was never out of a relationship for more than a week. If someone broke my heart I was ready to patch it up with a new lover. With that mind set of never wanting to be alone, I constantly chose anything and everything that was available to me. None of which was healthy. JUST BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE ALONE. Isn't that the reason we do these things instead of waiting for God to bring that one person to us that would give us the best chance at longterm relationship? So what am I trying to say in all of this?
I think society almost expects divorce. Thus it makes it so very easy to break up and not work to stay together. We leave if we're not happy about the toothpaste cap or the way the other person breathes.
Answer these questions:
Do you have to tools to make it work?
Do you know enough about how the other person views the world around them?
Are you willing to find out instead of thinking about yourself all the time?
It takes both parties to want a healing.
Got it?
